Surviving the festive season with a newborn
Christmas and New Year is a wonderful time for many, but it can also bring pressure on those who are celebrating their first Christmas with a newborn or young child.
In the first few weeks and months of becoming a parent, it is often about survival rather than planning ahead. Negotiating what the baby needs and trying to keep sane while keeping track of feeds and hoping for a good night's sleep.
On these big occasions, we are suddenly asked to make decisions; who do we spend them with, and where, how long do we stay, what shall we bring? It is important to choose what feels right for us and to think about any information that may need to be given to those we are staying with. Is there a routine that needs to be explained, with timings you need to stick to through the day? Do you need to get out of the house at times? Within all of this try to find a level of flexibility that is comfortable, so you enjoy Christmas and the New Year too.
This is also a time of year to think of those who will not be spending those precious moments with a longed-for baby, either because it is not possible or sadly because the baby did not survive.
Remember to communicate your needs to those closest to you, so you can receive the right support. By doing this you are also managing your own and everyone else's expectations. As we head towards this busy time of year, consider making conscious choices that are right for you and your children.
Written for Darling Magazine Wimbledon, December 2019 - February 2020 edition